I like it when people challenge my ideas and opinions. If I can’t defend my position, then I need to re-evaluate and modify … or just plain change my mind!
After my presentation at a recent conference, someone challenged me on the role of luck in my life …
During THE SENSEI LEADER keynote, I talk about my transformation from loser to leader––from drug abuser and dropout to Black Belt and to where I am today. During this presentation, someone in the audience asked me about the most significant factors in my transformation.
“Luck!”
Of course there were other factors––people who encouraged and helped, my willingness to succeed once I decided to change course––but even the existence of those factors depended largely on luck! I can’t help thinking that I’d be dead or in jail had a friend not turned up at exactly the right time, or had I been born in a different place or time––or even once or twice had a cop not had something more important to deal with than me at a particular moment.
Luck.
As I said, after this event, a member of the audience challenged me on the role of luck. It seemed to him that I was giving luck a little too much credit. Was it just a matter of chance that instead of sitting in a prison cell that I was speaking to a group of top executives about leadership?
Well, to a large extent––yes.
Now here’s the turn …
Every single day each of us is exposed to circumstances, conditions and opportunities over which we have absolutely no control. Too often our perception of control, or lack of it, is shaped by the outcome. If something turns out right, we too often ignore the role of chance. If it goes badly, we give too much weight to bad luck.
Every player at a poker table has the same odds of drawing a good or bad hand. The best players are those who can make the best of a bad hand––and those who know, as the old song goes, when to hold ‘em and when to fold ‘em.
Life is largely a game of chance, but just like in poker, there are ways to improve your odds. Two of the best are:
- Awareness
- Gratitude
Champion poker players are usually very aware people. They notice the slightest “tells,” or signals that indicate whether their opponents are playing a good hand or if they’re bluffing. They can’t control the cards they’re dealt, but they can pay full attention to what’s happening at the table and play their hand based on awareness and experience, not just the luck of the draw.
It’s the same way in real life.
You’re constantly exposed to opportunity and the potential for disaster. The more aware you are the more you’re likely to seize opportunity and recognize and avoid disaster. People who are very aware are usually the people who seem to “have all the luck!”
Gratitude helps you take a realistic inventory of where you are and why.
I don’t like the old cliche that says that every disaster or mistake is a lesson. It can be––if you make it so.
When something goes your way, it helps to appreciate it and to acknowledge whatever it took to deliver this success. When something goes bad, it’s very useful to appreciate the experience and the role it can have in future achievements.
I’m not the lollipops and puppy dogs guy so I won’t preach to you about “the attitude of gratitude” and all that muck. That hasn’t been my experience.
What I have learned is that gratitude serves as a practical inventory. When I take the time to be thankful for what I have, I see very clearly the material, emotional and spiritual resources at my disposal right here and right now. No matter how little that might be, that’s what I’ve got to work with.
Luck and chance plays a huge part in our lives.
Hell, you or I could have been sitting in an office in the World Trade Center on September 11th. What’s important is what you do with whatever cards you’re dealt.
Keep you eyes, ears, mind and heart open––practice awareness, and you’ll be more likely to seize opportunity and avoid disaster.
Be grateful and you’ll appreciate what you have in any given moment––and what you have is always more important than what you don’t.
I’m very aware of the role luck has played in my life––and I’m very grateful for the opportunity to cultivate my awareness. There’s a chance things may have turned out better at any given moment in my life, but I know with certainty that they could have turned out far worse.
It doesn’t bother me in the least to admit …
… I’m a very lucky guy.